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How to Be an Adult in Relationships:

The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

by David Richo

“Most people think of love as a feeling,” says David Richo, “but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present.” In this book he offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships– one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindul loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life.

In inspiring and encouraging terms, this book shows us how a handful of steadfast commitments can lead to mature and lasting relationships. Adult love is based on a mutual dedication to granting attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and “allowing,” These are the doorways to the joys and wealth of relationship, but too often we don’t grasp what these words really mean and don’t know how to fully manifest them in our relationships.

Brimming with practical exercises for couples and singles, this book offers heartening insights into the lifelong journey of love, from childhood to adulthood, from dating to breakups.

How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

Available at Wellsprings for S$25.90

Shadow Dance:

Liberating the Power and Creativity of Your Dark Side

by David Richo

Our “Shadow” is the collection of negative or undesirable traits we keep hidden – the things we don’t like about ourselves or are afraid to admit: egotism, non-”PC” proclivities, forbidden s exual desires. But it also includes our positive, untapped potential, qualities we may admire in others but disavow in ourselves. Befriending the Shadow makes fear an ally and enables us to live more authentically. It also automatically improves our interpersonal relationships, because we are freed from the need to project our own negativity on to others, and we become more acutely aware when theirs is projected onto us.

David RIcho looks for where the Shadow manifests in personal life, family interaction, religion, relationship, and the world around us. He shows how to use the gentle practice of mindfulness to work with our shadow side, and he provides numerous exercises for going deeper. He is remarkably skillful at making the Shadow concept not only east to understand, but supremely practical for enhancing the quality of our lives.

Shadow Dance: Liberating the Power and Creativity of our Dark Side

Available at Wellsprings for S$29.90

The Five Things We Cannot Change . . .

and the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them

by David Richo

Why is it that despite our best efforts, many of us remain fundamentally unhappy and unfulfilled in our lives? In this provocative and inspiring book, David Richo distills thirty years of experience as a therapist to explain the underlying roots of unhappiness – and the suprising secret to finding freedom and fulfillment.

There are certain facts of life that we cannot change – the unavoidable “givens” of human existence: (1) everything changes and ends, (2) things do not always go according to plan, (3) life is not always fair, (4) pain is part of life, and (5) people are not loving and loyal all the time. Richo shows us that by dropping our deep-seated resistance to these givens, we can find liberation and discover the true richness that life has to offer. Blending Western psychology and Eastern spirituality, including practical exercises, Richo shows us how to open up to our lives – including to what is frightening, painful, or disapointing – and discover our greatest gifts.

The Five Things We Cannot Change … and the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them

Available at Wellsprings for S$23.90

When the Past is Present

Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage Our Relationships

by David Richo

In this book psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present day relationships – and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends or acquaintances. When the Past Is Present helps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past so that we can identify our emotional baggage and take steps to unpack it and put it where it belongs.

When the Past is Present

Available at Wellsprings for S$29.90

Being True to Life:

Poetic Paths to Personal Growth

by David Richo

Psychotherapist David Richo offers a fresh and inspiring approach to personal growth: we can use the process of writing and reading poetry to move toward greater self understanding and emotional healing. Even if you’ve never written a poem before, you can learn to use poetry to explore your feelings your relationships, your childhood your dreams and more.

Richo explains how the creative, intuitive process of making poetry can help us gain access to our deepest truths, leading us to make connections and explore experiences in a new way beyond the constraints of everyday language. This book offers a range of practical exercises for getting started, as well as guidance on how to read poetry in a way that can be personally transformative.

Being True to Life shows us that poetry is not reserved for a few specially talented individuals but is a deeply human activity that anyone can tap into for greater clarity and insight into life’s struggles, beauty and mysteries.

Being True to Life: Poetic Paths to Personal Growth

Available at Wellsprings for S$23.90

How Life Shows Us What We Need to Know

by David Richo

Meaningful coincidences and surprising connections occur all the time in our daily lives, yet we often fail to appreciate how they can guide us, warn us, and confirm us on our life’s path. This book explores how meaningful coincidence operates in our daily lives, in our intimate relationships, and in our creative endeavors.

The Power of Coincidence will help you to: interpret a series of similar happenings, open yourself to assisting forces around you, understand how your dreams can guide you through life events, use your creative imagination in life choices—and live in accord with your deepest needs and wishes, as revealed to you by meaningful coincidences. Originally published under the title Unexpected Miracles, the author has fully revised and updated the book for this edition.

The Power of Coincidence: How Life Shows Us What We Need to Know

Available at Wellsprings for S$26.90